Tuesday, December 23, 2008

TWELVE TIPS FOR CHRISTMAS:

How to create your own self confidence and happiness.

 

Tip 1: What you focus on makes a difference. What are you focusing on?

 

Tip 2: Your attitude towards your life and everything around you makes the difference between contentment and dissatisfaction. Is your attitude negative or positive?

 

Tip 3: Developing gratitude for what you do have instead of focusing on what you don't have, is a source of great happiness. List 10 things to be thankful for.

 

Tip 4. Kindness can lead to confidence. When you are kind to someone you can feel good. When you feel good your confidence increases. Who will you be kind to today?

 

Tip 5. Look at the problems others have. If you feel miserable or are thinking badly of yourself, ask yourself, "Would you rather be living in Iraq or where you are?" Always keep your own problems in perspective for greater happiness.

 

Tip 6. Say thank you. Thank the people around you for the kind things they do for you. It doesn't have to be a big thing, they may just have made you a cup of tea or called you. Give thanks. Write down ten things you can thank people for today.

 

Tip 7. Generosity without expecting anything in return can lead to confidence. When you are generous to someone you can feel good. When you feel good your confidence increases. Who will you be generous to today?

 

Tip 8. Think kindly of yourself. What you think can knock your confidence or increase it. Write down 5 things you have done well today.

 

Tip 9. Praise someone. Look at people and find something nice to say about them. Have this as your focus. When you find something good about them tell them. When you bring pleasure to someone else your confidence is being nourished too.

 

Tip 10. Change your feelings don't just give into them. If you feel down, or discouraged or inadequate shift your feelings. They don't have to control you. Recall and relive some positive happy times so your confidence returns and you feel better.

 

Tip 11. Giving to people who are less well off than you are can help you appreciate how lucky you really are. When you feel lucky your confidence and happiness grow. Who will you give to today?

 

Tip 12. Create peace and quiet inside. Find a place to simply sit and be. Stop the rushing. Quit from being busy. Just be. It is only in silence we can truly hear the wisdom that is within each of us.


Create the causes for your own confidence and happiness.

Let no-one take them away from you.

May joy be in your heart throughout 2009 and may you be confident.

Saturday, December 20, 2008

ASMSI UAE CHAPTER Christmas Gig




December 19, 2008
Zabeel Park, Karama Dubai

Attendees:
Angana, Jeremias – 2nd batch Silang
Baral, Rosalie – 2nd batch Sta Mesa
Barnuevo, Arnold – 5th batch Silang
Cabinggan, Elsa – 8th batch Sta Mesa
Delos Reyes , Rowell – 1st batch Cebu
Echon, Edgar – 3rd batch Silang
Ferrer, Sheryl – 8th batch Sta Mesa
Gabuca, Remeilyn – 6th batch Sta Mesa
Manlolo, Marivel – 12th batch Sta. Mesa
Manipon, Ma. Theresa – 2nd batch Sta Mesa
Tan, Gina – 8th batch Sta Mesa
Zaragosa, Edgar – 12th batch Sta Mesa

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Three words that can change life

I'll Be There

If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we're truly present for other people, important things happen to them & us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

I Miss You

Perhaps more marriages could be saved & strengthened if couples simply & sincerely say to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired & loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

I Respect You / I Trust You

Respect and trust is another way of showing love. It conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds & become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

Maybe You're Right

This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting maybe "I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you’re right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to getyour view across in a more rational manner?

Please Forgive Me

Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I Thank You

Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

Count On Me

A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."

Let Me Help

The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.

I Understand You

People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing relationship. This applies to any relationship.

Go For It

We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how weird they seem to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."

I Love You

Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words "I love you”.

Cherry Pye Zablan - Torres

Bday treat at Xiao Wei Yang




Ay naku nadagdagan n2man ng isang taon ang edad ko...huhuhu..yoko tumatanda...huhuhu

Dinner kami sa Xiao Wei Yang... nag "shabu shabu" kami (ewan ko kung ganyan spelling nun...hehehe)

Then sumakay kami sa Water Bus papuntang Al Saeef,...lakad na lang kami papunta sa inuupahan nmin ni pangit...

Decision making skills and techniques

We use our decision making skills to solve problems by selecting one course of action from several possible alternatives. Decision making skills are also a key component of time management skills.

Decision making can be hard. Almost any decision involves some conflicts or dissatisfaction. The difficult part is to pick one solution where the positive outcome can outweigh possible losses. Avoiding decisions often seems easier. Yet, making your own decisions and accepting the consequences is the only way to stay in control of your time, your success, and your life. If you want to learn more on how to make a decision, here are some decision making tips to get you started.

A significant part of decision making skills is in knowing and practicing good decision making techniques. One of the most practical decision making techniques can be summarized in those simple decision making steps:

Identify the purpose of your decision. What is exactly the problem to be solved? Why it should be solved?

Gather information. What factors does the problem involve?

Identify the principles to judge the alternatives. What standards and judgement criteria should the solution meet?

Brainstorm and list different possible choices. Generate ideas for possible solutions.

Evaluate each choice in terms of its consequences. Use your standards and judgement criteria to determine the cons and pros of each alternative.

Determine the best alternative. This is much easier after you go through the above preparation steps.

Put the decision into action. Transform your decision into specific plan of action steps. Execute your plan.

Evaluate the outcome of your decision and action steps. What lessons can be learnt? This is an important step for further development of your decision making skills and judgement.

Final remark. In everyday life we often have to make decisions fast, without enough time to systematically go through the above action and thinking steps. In such situations the most effective decision making strategy is to keep an eye on your goals and then let your intuition suggest you the right choice.

 

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Creek Park




First few pictures in Dubai. Taken at Creek Park a month after i came here.

Monday, June 16, 2008

The Wedding

Rating:★★★
Category:Books
Genre: Literature & Fiction
Author:Nicholas Sparks
After 30 years, Wilson Lewis, son-in-law to Noah and Allie, is forced to admit that the romance has gone out of his marriage. Despite the shining example of his in-laws' 50-year love affair, Wilson himself is a man unable to express how he truly feels. With the distractions of his daughter's upcoming wedding he is forced to realize how close he is to losing his own wife Jane. But if Wilson is sure of anything, it's this: His love for his wife has only intensified over the years, and he wants nothing more than to make their marriage work. Now, with the memories of his in-laws' inspiring life together as his guide, Wilson pledges to find a way to make his wife fall in love with him...again.

An incredible story about the evolution of love... reading this books leads to self examination.

We haven't gone so far...... infact we're on the first stage of our marriage.... having read this book made me think that this is something i should fear for ourselves down the road.

Sunday, June 15, 2008

A Strong Woman versus A Woman Of Strength

 

A strong woman works out everyday to keep her body in shape…
But a woman of strength builds relationships to keep her soul in shape

A strong woman isn't afraid of anything…
But a woman of strength shows courage in the midst of fear.

A strong woman won't let anyone get the better of her…
But a woman of strength gives the best of herself to everyone.

A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same in the future…
A woman of strength realises life's mistakes can also be unexpected blessings, and capitalises on them

A strong woman wears a look of confidence on her face…
But a woman of strength wears grace.

A strong woman has faith that she is strong enough for the journey…
But a woman of strength has faith that it is in the journey that she will become strong.


~Dee Cheeks

Monday, May 26, 2008

Living with Regrets

By Dan Wilson


“If only I had . . . .”

  Raise your hand if you have never completed that sentence.  I didn’t think so.  Not one of you raised your hand.  Not that I can see you, of course, but I’ve been around long enough to know that no one travels very far through life without experiencing regrets.  Sometimes they are things we’ve done and other times things we failed to do. . . .  I didn’t raise my hand either, by the way.

For me it was college.  Rather than being a time of adventure and discovery, of hope and preparation for the future, college was a time in my life of chaos and confusion.  If only I had attended a smaller college rather than a large university, I’ve often thought.  Perhaps a smaller environment would have provided clearer vision and greater focus.  If only I could do it over again.  Then again, what if I had?  What if I had attended a different school, how would I have met my lovely wife who produced our two wonderful sons who married our beautiful daughters-in-law who will soon bear our first two grandchildren?  If I had done it differently, how would I have this awesome life I have today?

“Make the most of your regrets,” advised Henry David Thoreau.  But how, we ask ourselves?  Regrets are consequences that occur from our failures and mistakes, from making the wrong choices when we’ve encountered forks in the road.  But even those wrong paths we choose may be paved with blessings, sometimes enormous ones, if we will recognize them.  It is in recognizing those blessings and expanding upon them that we make the most of our regrets.

“If only I had . . . .” is a common remark we all make from time to time.  It’s our way of imagining what might have been had we chosen a different path.  But let us not forget that regrets can only be redeemed in what we did with the choices we made, not the ones we didn’t. 

Love Yourself

Stop All Criticism - Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

Don't Scare Yourself - Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

Be Gentle And Kind And Patient - Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

Be Kind To Your Mind - Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

Praise Yourself - Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

Support Yourself - Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

Be Loving To Your Negatives - Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now, you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.

Take Care Of Your Body - Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.


Mirror Work - Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: "I love you, I really love you."

Love Yourself .. Do It Now - Don't wait until you get well, or lose the weight
, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now - and do the best you can.

 

~ Louise Hay
 

Saturday, April 26, 2008

Sustain your good image with Pausitiveness

For a sustained good image, master emotional self-control. "Those who command themselves," goes an old saying, "command others." That is true, and it means being disciplined enough to put your personal feelings on hold even when tempted to blow your stack.

If you otherwise make a great first impression, yet allow yourself to be pushed over the edge to rant and rave and to say and do things that you later regret, that is the "you" that will be remembered. Your hard-won image of positiveness or enthusiasm can be shattered in an instant. It will take much damage control to undo even one such outburst.

One executive, whom I'll call Harry, seeks to project himself as fair, sensitive, highly knowledgeable, a good listener, and, above all, tranquil under fire. However, his volcanic temper is never far from exploding. Moreover, when it does erupt in an outpouring of vitriol, no one is safe. After his emotional eruptions, no one looks him squarely in the eye for quite some time as he tries to resume his role as good ol' Harry, the wise, imperturbable leader.

What Harry needs is what I call pausitiveness: the ability to pause and refrain from giving immediate feedback. Many an argument can be avoided if one side refuses to be defensive. That is because feedback, while generally a good idea, can be like throwing gasoline on a fire if you misunderstand the intent of the other person's message.

Another example: I once was at the home of some friends and was chatting with the wife when her husband, who was running a little late, burst into the room in an apparent huff. Pointing at his shirt collar, he demanded loudly, harshly, "Where did you get this shirt cleaned?" Many spouses, fearing a rebuke, might have counterattacked. However, this woman, in a calm voice without disturbing body language, just named the dry cleaner and said evenly, "Why do you ask?" The husband said it was the first time any cleaner had done his shirt properly and he would like all his shirts done there from now on.

Therefore, clearly, there are times when it is best just to pause, bite your tongue, and restrain your body language and gestures in the face of an implied threat or criticism until the smoke has cleared. Maybe, as it sometimes turns out, there is no crisis at all, or perhaps you wrongly inferred that the other person was being critical. In any event, by remaining calm, you may defuse the situation and, at the very worst, you will not aggravate it.

Remember: People will always believe that what you say in your worst moments is closer to your true beliefs than what you more carefully tailor for their consumption in calmer times.

 

~Tony Alessandra

Friday, April 25, 2008

Problems vs. Opportunities

By Zig Ziglar

 

Be grateful for your problems.  We all frequently deal with people who complain about the trials and tribulations of their daily lives.  Life seems to be one big problem for them.  I would like to take a common-sense, realistic approach and address this mind-set.  If there were no "problems" on your job, then your employer would hire a much less capable person than you to do the routine things that don't require much thought.  In the business world, those who are able to solve complex problems are the ones who have the most value to the employer.

Many times the problems or challenges we face force us to grow and become more capable.  The runner who trains for the mile run in the Olympics by running downhill will have no chance of winning the medal.  The runner who trains by running uphill is far more likely to develop the speed, mental toughness and endurance which it takes to win the medal. 

The best thing that ever happened to boxer Gene Tunney was that he broke both of his hands in the ring.  His manager felt that he could never again punch hard enough to be the heavyweight champion.  Instead, Tunney decided that he would become a scientific boxer and win the title as a boxer, not a slugger.  Boxing historians will tell you that he developed into one of the best boxers who ever fought.  They also will tell you that as a puncher, he would not have had a chance against Jack Dempsey, who was considered by many to be the hardest hitter in heavyweight history.  Tunney would never have been champion had he not had the problem of his broken hands.  Message: The next time you encounter a difficult climb, obstacle, "problem," you should smile and say, "Here's my chance to grow."  Develop that kind of an attitude and I will SEE YOU AT THE TOP! 

 

Zinger

By Croft M. Pentz

"You are a true winner if you only challenge and compete against yourself."

 

One of the hardest things to take is one of the easiest things to give - criticism.
 
If you must criticize, try criticizing the fault instead of the person.
 
Don't mind criticism.  If it is untrue - disregard it; if it is unfair - don't let it irritate you; if it is ignorant - smile; if it is justified - learn from it.

The harshest criticism, if cushioned with kindness and enthusiasm, becomes bearable and helpful.
 
Nothing quiets criticism like involvement.

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You cannot hold down a man without staying down with him.

People always emphasize the negative - no one puts up a sign: Beware-nice dog.
 
Medicine and advice are two things more pleasant to give than to receive.
 
To speak ill of others is a dishonest way of praising ourselves.
 
To find fault is easy - to do better is difficult.

One can tell how much of Christ a person has by the courtesy he reveals.

 

The test of good manners is being able to put up pleasantly with the bad ones.

Life may be short, but there is always time for courtesy.

People who try to whittle you down are only trying to reduce you to their size.

If you enjoy honey, don't kick over the beehive.

We may disagree, but let's not be disagreeable.

Some feel courtesy is a man offering his seat to a woman after he gets off the bus.

A little oil of courtesy will save a lot of friction.

Courtesy should be in the curriculum of every Christian.

Some people need solitary refinement.

 

 

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Other People's Opinions

"Favor and disgrace are equally problematic.

Favor lifts you up; disgrace knocks you down.

Either one depends on the opinions of others,

and causes you to depart from your center."

- - Tao Te Ching

 

I'm always amazed at how much real wisdom was

known and written a long time ago. We get so

involved in the newest technology and scientific

discoveries that we tend to think that our generation

must be really smart compared to those poor

ignorant souls of the past.

 

Well, being smart and being wise are two very

different things! There's a reason why many ancient

teachings are called "wisdom traditions" and not

"smart traditions." In my experience, smart can get

you into a lot of trouble, wisdom can keep you out.

 

The quotation from the Tao Te Ching that I have

above is over 2,600 years old, but its wisdom is timeless.

One way in which we can have a very emotionally

upsetting life is to allow our self to depend on others

for our self esteem.

 

I think that we all know that we can't let the negative

comments of others get to us. We learn from experience

to "shake it off" and go forward. But, as the Tao points

out, we need to be just as unaffected by compliments

as we are by criticism!

 

Why should that be? We all love compliments, right?

But compliments can be addictive and actually make

us more vulnerable to criticism, if we depend on them

for positive reinforcement. Because, as the Tao says,

we are depending on the opinion of others and

departing from our center. Our self esteem should rise

up out of the center of ourselves, in our confidence

that we are doing our best, and that we're just fine.

 

Compliment addiction can also distract us from our

purpose in life if we begin to do what we know will

bring compliments rather than doing what we know

is truly ours to do. Look at the lives of the people

who have really accomplished something magnificent

and you will see that they had to be indifferent to both

criticism and compliments to pursue their dream.

They stayed true to their center.

 

From a gratitude standpoint we can be equally

grateful for compliments and criticism, seeing each

as an input that we can examine and, if we choose,

use as feedback to improve. But if we use either one

to determine how we feel about ourselves, then

we're in trouble.

 

Is there anything in your life that you're not doing

because of potential criticism? Is there anything

that you are doing that you'd rather not, but you

don't want to give up the compliments? That's

something to think about.

 

~Wes Hopper~

 

Saturday, April 5, 2008

Prayer

“Lord, enlighten what is dark in me; strengthen what is weak in me; mend what is broken in me; bind what is bruised in me; and revive whatever peace and love that has died in me.” Amen.
 
 
-prayer shared by Fr. Jerry Orbos

Positive Side Of Life

Living on Earth is expensive,
but it does include a free trip around the sun every year.

 

How long a minute is depends on what side of the
bathroom door you're on.

 

Birthdays are good for you;
the more you have,
the longer you live.

 

Happiness comes through doors you
didn't even know you left open.

 

Ever notice that the people who are late are often much jollier
than the people who have to wait for them?

 

Most of us go to our grave
with our music still inside of us.

 

If Walmart is lowering prices every day,
how come nothing is free yet?

 

You may be only one person in the world,
but you may also be the world to one person.

 

Some mistakes are too much fun
to only make once.

 

Don't cry because it's over;
smile because it happened.

 

We could learn a lot from crayons:
some are sharp, some are pretty,
some are dull, some have weird names,
and all are different colors....
but they all exist very nicely in the same box.

 

A truly happy person is one who
can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

 

Have an awesome day,
and know that someone who thinks you're great
has thought about you today!

"And that person was me."....

 

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Are You a Croaker or A Leaper?

In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out.

It is then burst into flame by an encounter

with another human being.  We should all be thankful

for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.
- Albert Schweitzer

We don't often think about the effect that our words have upon others. Our words do have power and everything that we say has a positive or negative impact on others around us.

There is an old story that is told about an army* of frogs that went leaping through the forest one day when two of the frogs suddenly fell into a deep pit. All of the other frogs gathered around the hole to look down on their two fallen comrades. They all began to sadly shake their heads and to croak out dismal warnings. "It's too deep!" croaked one frog. Another croaked that there was no way that they would ever be able to get out of that pit alive.

The two fallen frogs began to continuously jump as they tried to get out of the pit, but the frogs that were watching kept croaking louder at them that they might as well stop because they were as good as dead and just wasting their time. One of the two frogs finally gave up and heeded the pessimistic advice of the frogs at the top. He quit jumping and literally "croaked" and died.

The other frog just kept right on jumping and leaping harder than ever in spite of all the loud croaks of disapproval from the frogs that were watching around the top of the hole. They kept croaking shouts at him to quit jumping and save himself from all the pain and suffering he was incurring as he leaped and fell back down to the bottom of the pit over and over again.

Finally, he leaped even harder than ever and to the surprise of all the other frogs he jumped right out of the deep pit. The other frogs asked him, "Why did you keep leaping even though we yelled and croaked at you to stop?" It was then that the frog explained to them that he was deaf and he had thought they were cheering for him and yelling words of encouragement to him the entire time!

A little encouragement can go a long way and as Babe Ruth once said, "It's hard to beat a person who never gives up."

Our words do have the power to hurt or to heal. What kind of frog are you? Are you a croaker or a leaper?

 

By Pamela Perry Blaine

© August 2005

 

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

The Belief Called Struggle

“Every time I get close to success I sabotage myself.”

“Why is making money so difficult for me.”

“Look, for other people things are so easy, why not for me.”

Any of these 3 thoughts sound familiar?

Too many people today have been beat up and have ingested JUNK
BELIEFS.

 

Junk belief: A belief you digested years ago that guarantees
your struggle and failure today.

Let’s keep going.

Let’s talk about one of the biggest junk beliefs we could have
soaked it.

 

'The Belief Called ‘Struggle’

Many people were taught, “making money is hard.”

And even more than that.

They were taught, that “life is hard, that life is a struggle.”

When you soak in struggle, your circumstances reflect struggle.
In your life, relationships, and finances.

I want to end struggle in my life, what’s the opposite of
struggle?”

 

The opposite of struggle is EFFORT.

Struggle is actions laced with negative emotions and
desperation.

Effort is natural. It’s taken one action after another, moving
to your destination.

We were born to make EFFORTS.

We were not born to struggle.

 

The famous author Emile Coule said years ago, “Always think of
what you have to do as easy and it will become so.”

Say out loud, “Making money is easy.”

“Having great relationships is easy for me.”

Make this a habit.

Many people have bought into STRUGGLE and don’t even see that
they have.

It’s an ‘invisible’ belief that chains them to mediocrity and
strife. They’ve been directed by this belief so long, that it
almost seems natural, a ‘part of them’.

 

You deserve to live a life of EFFORT, not struggle.

Demand a greater awareness from yourself, making sure you
haven’t bought into this junk belief.


By: Mike Littman 

Sunday, March 23, 2008

To lose a friend

People come into our lives
To serve some purpose or reason
Then they are gone like a puff of wind
Receding like the ending season.

There are times when friendships end
When nothing can hold them together
When uninvited feelings get in the way
Stirring up stormy weather.


One friend might begin to think
We can mend this gap if we try
But it takes two to bridge the breach
To avoid saying that final goodbye.

Some people are so caught up in self
They think others are always at fault
They never ponder their own mistakes
To see the harm they’ve wrought.


To my regret, I lost such a friend
How wasteful it seems, my loss
I watched her change and withdraw each day
Becoming frequently very cross.

I’m proud that I tried to be a friend
By showing kindness, patience and concern,
Sadly, it never seemed enough for her
And her odd resentment began to burn.


We shared so many things we did
Camaraderie for many years on end
Then she started withdrawing and pulling away
As though tired of being my friend.

I showered her with kindness and praise
When she shared good news with me
While she ignored my few blessings
That I shared with her, you see.

 

 

By Jeanette Cooper

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

You can't please everybody

Every one of us is born unique in our ways, outlook, attitudes, likes, dislikes, opinions, and perspective. Come to think of it, even if we have a lot of things that are different from each other, we still are set by boundaries, norms and principles for socially acceptable behavior so that we can co-exist peacefully.

Here are just basic things to remember. One is to realize and put in our hearts that we should respect other's ways, outlooks, attitudes, likes and dislikes, opinions or perspective. If we do that, there comes the acceptance that no one has to be like you or you don't need to be like the others, just so you could get along.

Do not expect others to see your way. If they don't, respect that. Do not expect others to make the same decisions that you do. If they don't, respect that. Conflicts are second-nature to humans. People are argumentative to a fault, in many aspects of our lives. We just have to stop and listen. We don't have to agree, but respect others ideas and opinions.

If you don't want to get stumped while expressing your thoughts, then don't do that to others as well. In this generation and age, people are accustomed to just being in a group, organization, or having friends that also have the same viewpoints as we do. By doing this, we limit our capabilities to inculcate respect.

And remember, you can only be on the same wavelength with someone else to a minimal extent. Even twins are not so much alike.

Next time you would have a disagreement with someone, remember all these. You are at an advantage because that person might go on because he doesn't know that respect is needed to ensure that we live peacefully. And if you stoop down to his level, you are the loser, not him. Understanding is respecting. Respecting is not a way to please everyone but a course to ensure that you are a principled person.


 

Feelin' so Cold




Monday, February 18, 2008

THE BEST MOMENTS IN LIFE

Falling in love.
Laughing till your stomach hurts.
Enjoying a ride down the Country side.
Listening to your favorite song on the radio.
Going to sleep listening to the rain pouring outside.
Getting out of the shower and wrapping yourself with a warm, fuzzy towel.
Passing your final exams with good grades.
Being part of an interesting conversation.
Finding some money in some old pants.
Laughing at yourself.
Sharing a wonderful dinner with all your friends.
Laughing without a reason.
"Accidentally" hearing someone say something good about you.
Watching the sunset.
Listening to a song that reminds you of an important person in your life.
Receiving or giving your first kiss.
Feeling this movement in your body when seeing this "special" someone.
Having a great time with your friends.
Seeing the one you love happy.
Wearing the shirt of a person you love and smelling his/her perfume.
Visiting an old friend of yours and remembering great memories.
Hearing some telling you "I LOVE YOU"

True friends come in the good timeswhen we tell them to, and come inthe bad times.....without calling."

Sunday, February 3, 2008

Saturday, February 2, 2008

Me, Myself, & I

Some people say they haven't yet found themselves. But the self is not something one finds; it is something one creates.

Thomas Szasz